Yesterday I went to an all day workshop for work. I am new to the PA financial aid circle so of course I didn't know anyone. Luckily everyone was rather friendly.

At one point during lunch one of the women asked me if I had any children. When I told them that I had a 5 year old, 2 1/2 year old, and was expecting our third they looked at me shocked. Several then commented that they didn't even realize I was pregnant. They then asked me how far a long I was and when I told them I was almost 30 weeks a few jaws hit the table.

I have had a lot of women make this same comment to me. Last weekend Bret and I took the kids to get their haircut and both of the stylist were pregnant. Again it came up that I was pregnant and they asked me to stand up because they couldn't tell and was finding it hard to believe. They found it even harder to believe when they found out I was a few months further along than either one of them.

I haven't gained a lot of weight this pregnancy which has been awesome. Part of me feels really good when they act so surprised to find out. I find myself constantly comparing myself to other women who have close due dates and the bottom line is that I'm just not showing as much..yet.

The only thing that kind of bugs me is that when people don't realize that I'm pregnant they are probably just assuming I'm over weight. I would much rather be "the cute pregnant woman" than the "might be pregnant but probably just fat woman" that no one wants to assume cause they might be wrong.

I have been the mom whose kid asks another woman if it's a boy or girl only to find out that she is not pregnant. *sigh* I guess the good news is that if someone does assume I don't have to get insulted about it.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Oh yes, the "might be pregnant" look. Oh well, 10 more weeks will fly by, right?