5.18.2009

Facebook...please give me more information!!!

I will be the first to admit that I am a nosey person. I like to know what is going on. I don't like to spread gossip just hear about it. Facebook is usually an awesome tool for this. It gives me small glimpses into people lives even though I don't know them very well or aren't very close to them any more.

It fascinates me to see new pictures of kids from old friends from high school or younger. It lets me keep updated on friends in KS and has even given me an opportunity to get to know some family better. I love it when people announce to the facebook world that they are pregnant/engaged/etc and that I am part of that world when without facebook I would never have known. When I get a new friend request from someone I haven't talked to in 10 years it's fun to see the pictures they have of their wedding/spouse/family/children/pets and I get to catch up all in the privacy of my own home with no one really knowing that I am that curious to begin with.

What I don't like though is that sometimes you read things that just makes me ask 100 other questions. Those 25 things about me questionnaires are the worst. I see someone write that the hardest day of their lives was when their older sister died, or that they have already loved and lost their one true soul mate. What happened?

Other times it's the status bar that drives me nuts. People will say that they are very sad today or that they appreciate everyone's thoughts and prayers. Usually the person will give enough information that you get the idea of what happened but not always. I want to ask "are you OK? what happened?" but I can't.

When I read these things there becomes an imaginary line drawn. I am close enough to that person to be a facebook friend but not really close enough to ask if they are OK or what happened. I know that I am the one that draws the line because I don't feel comfortable asking..I don't want to seem nosey although admittedly I am just that.

So while the joy of getting tons of bday wishes on your birthday and getting to see newborn pictures within hours of the birth make me love facebook....not know what is going on in people's lives or knowing enough to kill the cat drives me insane.

One of the other things that I find fascinating is that reading what other people I knew write or seeing them get together for bunko parties makes me wonder if I ever moved back home (small chance in hell) if we would ever reconnect as friends once again. So much about these people (at least on the facebook surface) seem to be exactly the same. What is even crazier is how they in their older/wiser state remind me SO much of what I remember their parents to be like it is surreal.

4 comments:

Curly Muse said...

I feel exactly the same way..

Face book can be very superficial like that. A good example is what happened to me this weekened. I went to two separate places and ran into two different people I knew in high school. I have both of these people on face book and read all about them there and stuff, but it STILL felt like a I just really met them again. How strange!

On the other hand, facebook, (well first MySpace) helped me reconnect with people who I love very much now as I did then! I hang out with old friends and have made bonds stronger.

so yes it is a joy and a pain!

kim said...

oops...sometimes I'm uber cryptic on facebook. I just like to mess with people. No, not really. Sometimes it's just easier to get things out without actually saying in detail what those things are.Ya know?

BTW, yes, I've read the Sookie books. I'm in number 6 right now, and I'm still rooting for Bill. Eric...ehh...only sometimes.

Adriana said...

Kim- If book #4 didn't sell you on Eric then you may be a Bill fan for life *sigh* to each their own lol

Nicki and Mathis said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog on my SITS day!! And thank you for the encouragement about school... that meant a lot!